每个人都有朋友！比的是你能吸引什么样的人成为你的朋友！
是否能悟透近朱者赤近墨者黑的道理？

2006 年4 月份，我到新加坡去参加美国全球竞争力研究院院长黄力泓博士的『魅力总裁理财课程』，来回机票加上住宿和课程费用，大约花39 万台币。

黄力泓在第一堂课就令我的印象十分深刻，他是全世界最会引导别人如何理财的竞争力大师和国际企业家，学员来自马来西亚、新加坡、中国大陆和台湾、日 本，大家十分兴奋的准备听他分享理财最重要的第一个关键，黄力泓要每个人写下10位和自己最亲近的朋友，大家感到一阵子的莫名，接着罗勃特.T.清崎要大 家写下这10个人的财务状况，把所知道的一切详细的写下来，包括：他们有多少存款、多少房子、车子、每个月收入多少、有多少负债、……等，再写下他们跟你 聊天时谈到他们对金钱的看法……，尽你所能的写下你身边和你最亲近的10个人，他们的财务状况。

听一堂课值三十九万

在场来自于5个国家300多位学员就认真的写作业，黄力泓每隔5-10分钟就要大家再写多一点，就这样写了将近一个小时，终于把这10位亲近之人的 财务状况写完了，黄力泓问「现在各位知道为什么了吧？」大家搞不懂他所指的意思，互相转头看了一看，黄力泓接着说：「你是否发现你和所写的人财务状况差不 多呢 ？」大家才猛然的觉醒，真的耶！资产100万的人，他的朋友们大约也是100万左右，有一间房子的人，他的朋友们也大多有一间房子，而使用信用卡循环利息 的人，他的朋友们几乎都处于负债的边缘或状态，接着黄力泓要大家分组彼此就刚刚所写来的内容加以讨论自己的心得，原来他所要传达第一个最重要的观念就是中 国古老的重要思想，「物以类聚，人以群分，近朱者赤，近墨者黑」！

医生的朋友们，通常也都是医生；TAXI司机的朋友，通常也都是TAXI司机；亿万富翁他们的朋友通常也都是亿万富翁；当老板的人，他们的朋友通常 也是一位老板；得SARS的人，他的家人也会很快被传染，因为人跟人之间本来就会互相的影响，尤其是言语和思想的传染力是极为惊人的，你为什么会抽烟？因 为是你的朋友拿烟给你抽；你为什么爱打牌？因为你的朋友常常找你去打牌；你为什么买奔驰车？因为你公司的主管或同事也买奔驰车；你为什么会去读MBA？因 为你的兄弟姊妹或朋友也读MBA；你为什么渴望有百万或千万年薪？因为你看到身边有人跟你做同一份工作，却有如此耀眼的成绩。

黄力泓说：「想要减肥的人千万不要跟胖子在一起」，因为一个人之所以会成为胖子就是他高兴的时候吃、心情沮丧时也吃、忙碌的时候想吃、无聊的时候更是不停的吃，若你跟他在一起，一定会受到他的影响，那你的瘦身计划就不可能成功了！

当很多朋友浇你冷水

美国全球竞争力研究院院长黄力泓说：每个人都有250位朋友，他们分别出现在两种场合，一个是你的婚礼，一个是丧礼，而这些朋友有80%是对你毫无帮助，他们通常不会给你正面、积极的影响，当你渴望有任何作为的时候，他们通常会浇你冷水，告诉你种种的坏处和各种失败的可能。

有20% 的朋友，他们是属于较积极的，会给你正面的影响，而有5%的朋友则会帮助你，重大改变你的一生！所以，你对朋友们不该一视同仁，你应该花80%的时间跟那些会重大影响你一生，那 5%的朋友在一起。

当我们都讨论完那篇「与我们最亲近10位朋友的财务状况」后，黄力泓说：若我们想要改善我们的财务状况的话，那一年至少要做一次检讨，每隔一年要重 新写下我们最亲近的10位名单，因为要花多少时间和别人相处，是我们可以自行决定的，然而我们的朋友同样是我们自己所选择的，想想看，若你身边的10位朋 友，他们不是身价亿万就是千万，那过5年之后，你的身价会是多少呢？

也许你会问：「我那么不起眼，我只是一个小角色，那些身价千万、亿万的富翁为 什么和我交往呢？」是的，大多数人都不习惯跟比他成功或比他富有的人在一起！但若你想要改变你的财务状况，那你就会想办法多结交一些会赚钱、会规划自己财 务的人为朋友，通常一位企业家或亿万富翁他们最想结交的朋友，除了其它的企业家之外，就是律师和会计师或财务顾问，不然就是医生，因为有钱的人会喜欢跟有 知识、有专业的人在一起，因为这样有钱的人会变得有知识，而有知识的人也会变得有钱。

有钱的人大多刚开始也是一个不起眼的小角色，微软的创办人Bill Gates ，大家都知道他读哈佛大学、中途休学，在自家中的车库开始创业；Dell计算机的总裁Michael Dell也是在大学宿舍开始创业；台湾经营之神王永庆从卖米小弟做起；扬名国际的卧虎藏龙大 导演李安，之前也在家中10年苦写剧本，*朋友的接济，他们大多都接受过贵人的帮助或提拔才会有今日的成就和影响力，在有今日的地位之前，他们真的也是不 起眼的小角色，不同的是他们拥有梦想、拥有雄心壮志。

所以你可以列下，在你周遭有哪些人你渴望认识他们或者他们已经认识你的人，将名单列下来，不仅仅只关于财富，像有哪些人特别有自信、有魅力，哪些人 婚姻特别令你羡慕、哪些人活的既健康又快乐，你可以从「请教」他们开始，你可以这样说：您好！我是某某人，我听我一位朋友提起，您在________方面 有过人的成就，是否能请教您最重要的3个关键是什么呢？我是否能请您用餐？你最喜欢哪间餐厅呢？大多数的人都喜欢跟别人分享他们的成就，当你能认同他的成 就，甚至点头、做笔记、带录音机〈笔〉去录下你们谈话的内容，我相信你会获得超乎你想象的结果！

创业致富与吸毒之间

美国人际关系权威哈维麦卡说：「在这地球上，人与人之间的关系不会超过6个人之间的相互关系」，也就是说，你的朋友的朋友的朋友〈 6个人〉 ……，是成龙、是周润发、是严凯泰、是张忠谋、是黄力泓、是你想得到的任何人，你可以透过朋友的介绍认识更多你认为能帮助你的人。

仔细想想你能带给别人什么好处？你能替想认识的人拍张照片或画张画了解他的目标，替他收集他喜欢的相关资料吗？你能写信给他，让他知道他带给你什么样的影响吗？

因为我们是非常容易受朋友影响的，朋友总是会影响我们「看什么样的书」「去哪里旅游」、「买什么样牌子的音响」、「是去打高尔夫球、打桥牌或打麻 将」、「做什么样的工作」、「买什么样的车、以及跟谁买车」、「介绍其它的朋友互相认识」、「一个月该赚多少钱」、「做什么样的生涯规划」、「进行何种投 资理财」、「参加什么样的团体或活动」、「做什么生意或参加标会」。

朋友会直接且深刻的影响你，影响你上进也可以影响你堕落，甚至可以说：「我们的命运不是掌握在自己手里，而是掌握在我们的朋友手里！」

为什么会合伙创业？因为朋友的影响
为什么会结伙抢劫？因为朋友的影响
为什么会去飚车？因为朋友的影响
为什么会去打麻将？因为朋友的影响
为什么渴望赚钱？因为朋友的影响
为什么穿鼻洞、舌钉？因为朋友的影响
为什么要吸毒？因为朋友的影响
为什么要出书？因为朋友的影响
为什么要爱喝茶或喝酒？因为朋友的影响
为什么会去做传销或保险？因为朋友的影响
为什么会有这种或那种习惯？因为朋友的影响

伍思凯有一首非常成功的歌叫「分享」，有一段歌词是：「与你分享的快乐，胜过独自拥有至今我仍深深感动 …..」， 请问你的朋友究竟都「分享」些什么给你呢？他们的「分享」对你造成什么样的影响？你是否深刻的感受到我们的命运掌控在朋友的手里？

妳(你)又分享些什么给你的朋友 ?
有5% 的朋友会帮助你，重大改变你的一生，
花点时间认真找出你的贵人，跟紧他！

一个人的态度 决定他的高度
只要有呼吸就有希望
希望是追求理想的第一步
勇敢是突破自我生命的力量

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Introduction:
Huang Li Wang said: "The people want to lose weight must not together with the fat";
Huang Li Wang said: "Everyone has 250 friends, 80 percent no help to you."

Everyone has a friend! Than you are able to attract what kind of person be your friend!
Can Wutou Jinzhuzhechi Jinmozhehei truth »

April 2006, I went to Singapore to participate in the global competitiveness of the U.S. Institute of Dr. Huang Lihong, president of the 'charisma' financial management courses, round-trip air tickets plus accommodation and course fees, spend about 390,000 Taiwan dollars.

Huang Li Wang in the first class to me a very deep impression, he is the world's most will guide others how to master the competitiveness of financial management and international entrepreneurs, students from Malaysia, Singapore, mainland China and Taiwan, Japan, everyone is very excited about the Prepared to listen to him share the most important fiscal first key, Huang Li Wang wrote to each person and his 10 closest friends, we feel the inexplicable for a while, and then Robert. T. Qingqi should we wrote these 10 individuals Financial situation, to know all the details written down, including: the number of their deposits, the number of houses, cars, monthly income, the number of liabilities,…… etc., and then write what they chat with you when they talked about The views of the money……, you can make a written around you and your closest of the 10 individuals, of their financial situation.

Listen to a class of 390,000

The presence of five countries from more than 300 students on the serious Xiezuo Ye, Huang Li Wang every 5-10 minutes to write you a little bit more, it is so written by nearly one hour, and finally this 10 close of the financial写完the situation, Huang Li Wang asked: "Now you know why the bar» "We do not know he was referring to engage in meaning, mutual Zhuantou Kanliaoyikan, Huang Li Wang went on to say:" Do you find that your people and written about the financial situation? »" Everyone was suddenly the awakening really Ye! Assets of 1 million people, about his friends is also about 1 million, the house, his friends are also a house, and the use of credit cards cycle of interest, his friends are in debt almost on the verge of Or status, then we should Huang Hong group has just written to each other on to discuss the content of their experience, he has to convey the original article one of the most important is the ancient Chinese concept of the important thinking of "Wuyileiju, the group points to people, nearly Zhu Who Chek, Jinmozhehei! "

Doctor's friends, usually are doctors; TAXI driver's friends, are usually TAXI driver billionaire their friends usually are billionaires when the boss, their friends usually a boss; in Of SARS, his family will soon be transmitted, because Ren Genren between each other will have the impact, in particular the words and ideas of Chuanran Li is extremely alarming, why would you smoke » Because it is your friend Nayan out to you; why you love playing cards » Because you often find your friends to play cards; Why did you buy the Mercedes-Benz » Because you are in charge of the company or colleagues to buy the Mercedes-Benz; why you will Qudu MBA? Because of your brothers and sisters or friends read MBA; Why do you want a million or million years salary » Because you see someone close to you to do the same work, there are so eye-catching achievements.

Huang Li Wang said: "The people want to lose weight must not with the fat together," because a person is overweight is that he will be glad when to eat,'s frustrating when to eat, eat a busy time, boredom is not the time Stop eating, if you together with him, he will be the impact of the downsizing plan that you can not be a success!

When many of my friends poured cold water on you

U.S. global competitiveness of the Institute of Huang Li Wang said: everyone has 250 friends, they appear in two separate occasions, one of your wedding, a funeral is, these friends have 80% of no help to you, They usually will not give you a positive, positive impact, when you have any desire as the time, they will usually poured cold water on you, tell you all the pros and all kinds of possible failure.

20% of friends, they are more active, will give you a positive impact, while five percent of the friends will help you, major changes in your life! Therefore, you should not have the same friends, you should spend 80 percent of the time with those who will major impact on your life, that 5 percent of the friends.

When we are那篇discussion "with our closest friends of the 10 financial situation", Huang Li Wang said: If we want to improve our financial situation, then at least the year to do a review every year to re - We close down the 10 list, because how much time to spend with other people, that we can decide for themselves, but also our friends is our own choice, Think about it, if you close to 10 friends, They are not worth hundreds of millions is 10 million, five years later, your worth is how much will it »

Perhaps you would ask: "So I do not attract much attention, I only a small role in those worth tens of millions, hundreds of millions of the rich and why do I contact» "Yes, most people are not accustomed to success than he or than rich people Together! But if you want to change your financial situation, the more you will think of ways to make some money, will be planning their own financial artificial friend, usually a billionaire entrepreneur or they most want to make friends, in addition to the other Entrepreneurs, is that lawyers and accountants or financial advisers, is not a doctor, because wealthy people will be like with the knowledge and professional people together, because wealthy people will become knowledgeable, and knowledge The people will become rich.

Most of the money has just begun is also a humble small role, the Microsoft founder Bill Gates, we all know that he read at Harvard University, on leave from the middle, in their own entrepreneurial start in the garage; Dell Computer's Michael Dell is also president of the University dormitory began entrepreneurship; god of Wang Yung-ching, Taiwan's business from selling rice Xiaodi start; international famous director Ang Lee's Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, also at home before 10 hard to write the script, * friend's Jie Ji, most of them have received贵人Or will be promoted with the help of today's achievements and influence in today's status, they do not attract much attention is also a small role, they have different dreams, with ambition.

So you can be shown, in which people around you want you already know them or they know your people, will be listed down, not only on wealth, like what people in particular are confident, charismatic, who married in particular Envy you, who live in both healthy and happy, you can "consult" them, you can say: Hello! I am certain, I listen to my friends raised, you ________ have outstanding achievements, you can ask the three most important key is what is » Can I please have your bread » Which is your favorite restaurant? » Most people like to share with others their success, when you can agree with his achievements, and even nod, make notes, with tape recorders <T> to record the contents of your conversation, I believe you will get more than you imagine Results!

Venture between the rich and drug abuse

Haweimaika authority of the United States interpersonal relations, said: "In this earth, the relationship between people no more than six of the interrelationship between" In other words, your friends of friends of friends <6 personal> ……, Is Jackie Chan, Chow Yun-fat, is Yan Kai-tai, Chang, Huang Li Wang is a person you want, you can be introduced to more friends you think you can help the people.

Think about what you can bring other benefits » Can you help to make people aware of the photos or art of painting to understand his goals, he would like for him to collect the relevant information? » You can write to him and let him know that he gives you what kind of impact? »

Because we are very vulnerable to the impact of a friend, always will affect our friends "to see what kind of book," "Where tourism", "buy what brand of sound", "is to play golf, or playing mahjong Da Qiaopai , "" What kind of work "and" what kind of car to buy and whom to buy a car, "and" other friends on mutual understanding, "" The Zhuanduoshaoqian month "," What kind of career planning " , "The finance and investment" and "to participate in what kind of groups or activities" and "what to do business or participate in the bidding clubs."

Friends will have a direct and profound influence on you and affect your progress can also affect your downfall, and even said: "Our destiny is not in their own hands, but is in the hands of our friends!"

Why would venture partner » Because of the impact of friends
Why gang robbery » Because of the impact of friends
Why would go to Biao car » Because of the impact of friends
Why play mahjong » Because of the impact of friends
Why is eager to make money » Because of the impact of friends
Why Chuanbi hole, tongue nailed » Because of the impact of friends
Why should drug » Because of the impact of friends
Why should a book » Because of the impact of friends
Why should Aihe Cha or drink » Because of the impact of friends
Why do pyramid schemes or insurance » Because of the impact of friends
Why is this or that habit » Because of the impact of friends

Wu Sikai have a very successful song called "sharing", some lyrics are: "to share with you the joy, better than I alone have so far remained deeply touched… ..", may I ask what your friends are "sharing" what To you? » Their "share" caused to you what kind of impact » Do you feel the profound control of our destiny in the hands of a friend »

You (you) and what share with your friends »
5% of friends will help you, major changes in your life,
Take the time to carefully identify your贵人, bear with him!

A person's attitude toward the height of his decision
As long as there is hope that the respiratory
Hope is the first step in the pursuit of ideals
Courageous breakthrough is the life force of self -